Life’s Purpose
August 25th, 2008There is no meaning to live if there isn’t a purpose to live for. We all realize this and we are continuously in search for our purposes. Religions and philosophers defined our purposes and articulated them in many ways. Unfortunately, in most cases it is difficult to apply those definition to our daily life. These definitions are either too abstract or too complex to understand. In this article, a simple method to find out the purposes of life is introduced.
Lets start with the simple fact that “we depend on each other”. Proofing this fact is easy. Spend few moments reviewing your daily life and count the number of people you depend on. Think what would you do if they disappear. This exercise is sufficient to proof that our dependence on others is real and serious. In most cases the loss of one of those we depend on can turn our life upside down.
Now think about the people who depend on you. Focus on those who have no choice but to depend on you or someone else. Think about what will happen to them if you let them down. You will quickly realize that your purpose in life is to be there for them. You have no choice but to honor the dependency.
If you agree with the above, start preparing your list of purposes. We will first focus on our relationships to others. Our relationships define our dependency. Examples of relationships are son, wife, father, friend, and neighbor. Although the list of all possible relationships is long, each individual has a limited number of these relations. Keep in mind that one’s relationships change with time and so are one’s purposes in life. The list of your relationships to others is all what you need to get busy fulfilling your responsibilities.
There is no doubt that some relationships are more important than others. If you are the only one who has a specific relation to someone, this relationship should be your top priority. You may have few of these. As an example, each person has one father. In the father’s list the “father” realtionship is one of the top priorities the father has. A mother with three children has three top priority relationships, one for each child. If your father has two sons and you are one of them, your “son” relationship is in the second priority because you share it with your brother. Proceed with prioritizing your relationships. These priorities should directly affect how much time and resource you will put in fulfilling your duties.
The next step is to understand each relationship and what are your obligations towards the other party. Each relationship has general characteristics. Those can be found by searching the web. Besides the general characteristics, there are special ones that you will determine based on the needs of the other party.
It is very comforting to know why we exist in life and know how to fulfill our purposes of existance. You have the list, you have no execuse.